How To Get Over It and Move Forward - The Five of Cups Journaling Worksheet
How to Get Over It And Move Forward
With the Five of Cups
Where do you choose to put your attention?
Are you a glass half full person, or a glass half empty? Do you cry over spilled milk, or wipe up the wet and move on? Do you easily see the good around you even when things are going badly, or do you have a problem getting out of a funk?
The Five of Cups card asks us to ponder this about ourselves, and I’ve always loved it for that. It often shows up for us during a time of transition or turmoil: something will (or has recently) come to an end, and we have unexpected feelings to sort through.
Whenever it’s come up in my past, I’ve immediately looked for the “two full cups” in my life: where can I focus my attention so to not dwell on the past but keep forward momentum? I guess I’m a glass-half-full gal that way. Pick yourself back up. Brush up. Move on. Right?
Recently, though, I’ve slowed to more fully consider the number five in and of itself.
In the beginning of The Me Without, I confess to being single, sick, and broke — these are the three meters by which I then measure change as I take habits out of my life for the year. By the end of my project (and the book), I confess that the single-sick-broke trifecta no longer has a great impact on my happiness — I can be happy despite whether or not I am healthy, if my bank account is flush, or if I do or do not have a fulfilling romantic relationship.
That’s all still true. But I recently realized that I’ve subconsciously let my romantic relationship, physical health, and financial status become three very real, solid cups by which I measure whether or not life is good.
And I now have spillage everywhere. Life is messy. There’s a lot to sort through and clean up.
And so, the Five of Cups is back. Because I want to focus on fullness. I want my energy focused forward.
To help myself in this transitory phase, I’ve designed a journaling worksheet. The beauty of the Five of Cups is that it doesn’t ask us only to move on; we don’t merely walk away from the situation without first cleaning it up. We are charged with identifying and giving space for what exists around the spillage, exploring the bridge between the three empty cups and the two that are full. By easing some responsibility from our spilled cups, can kindness and compassion shift our gaze to the full ones? Can we not merely walk away, but bring lessons learned from the empty cups along with us?
Sometimes it’s not about getting over it, right? It’s about taking everything you’ve learned with you.